The Feeling of Regret

Coach Ruben & his experience with football:

Perfect Practice makes Perfect.  What Do I mean? It’s not enough to go through the motion, or just show up.  Work, hanging out with  friends, or just working out…You have to show up with intent to make a dent in that big crystal clear longterm goal. You must be willing to accept that there isn’t any express lanes in your journey to success.
I saw one of my all time favorite movies the other day, Friday Night Lights.  I love football and I love motivational speeches; this movie has both.


It takes me back to my football days.  I remember all of it.  From the first time I finally decided that I was going to go all in, tackling the person  as hard as I could with no fear in my heart.  Then, hearing a man clapping and cheering in the distance.  Later realizing it was my father cheering out of pride.

I also remember my last year of football which wasn’t as great.  At that point I was going on my 7th year of playing football. Our coach yelled at us for mistakes and humiliated us in front of our peers when we messed up.  I let this feeling take my football.  I stopped wanting to be great.  Don’t get me wrong I loved football then and I love it now.  It was a gateway into who I was bound to become. but I stopped giving it my all at that point.

Everyone saw it, especially my coaches.  I got injured, lost my starting spot and I never recovered from that.  I didn’t want to play no more and so I stopped.  I stopped caring, stopped going to practice, and even skipped some days school.

Life after football was ok at first, I had time to hang out with my friends.  Spend more time with my girlfriend.  It was fun at the time but football was a part of me.  For years after high school I would still get together on a regular basis with my old football buddies and play football.  Not a year has gone by that I don’t miss a turkey bowl.  Which is tradition in south gate if you don’t know.  Like I said it’s part of who I am.

No matter how much football I watch, play, or talk about now, I can never shake the feeling of regret I have for letting my self lose the love for the game while I still had the chance to play.  I want to cry sometimes thinking that I could have made some beautiful memories that last year.  Cry because I decided not to practice perfectly.

That is why I push my self now.  I never want to fail like that again.  I don’t want to be 50 and wondering why I didn’t try harder.  I promise my self to give 100% of my effort to what I want out of each workout, workday, and every day in general…


I challenge you to make a long term goal.  One towards your goals in fitness and one in general.  Make it as specific as possible even if it’s one sentence.  I want to hear what you want and how bad you want it.  Seeing it on paper will make it that much more real in your mind.

Don’t live the life of regret.

Coach Ruben

“Well I want you to understand somethin’. To me, being perfect is not about that scoreboard out there. It’s not about winning. It’s about you and your relationship to yourself and your family and your friends. Being perfect is about being able to look your friends in the eye and know that you didn’t let them down, because you told them the truth. And that truth is that you did everything that you could. There wasn’t one more thing that you could’ve done. Can you live in that moment, as best you can, with clear eyes and love in your heart? With joy in your heart? If you can do that gentlemen, then you’re perfect.” – Billy Bob Thornton in Friday Night Lights

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